Hey, it's Dr. Betsy Greenleaf and we are here with Ask the Expert for plusOne.

Today we're tackling a big question. How do I get my husband to use a vibrator when he feels self-conscious about my orgasms?

Well, number one, let him know it's not about replacing him, it's about adding to the experience. Try saying, I love being with you, and this could make things even more fun.

Number two, instead of handing him a vibrator and hoping for the best, invite him to explore it with you. Guide his hand, let him see how it enhances pleasure and keep it playful.

And number three, remind him that your pleasure is shared. Pleasure. Using a vibrator doesn't mean he's lacking. It means he's open to making sure you both enjoy intimacy. Even more. Intimacy is about connection, not competition. So keep the conversation open, fun and pressure free.

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